Delay..

Hey all..Sorry for the delay in posting. I have been struggling with the idea of trying to keep on this subject or trying to find a new subject. I really think that we can get the word out, and I am very much Pro- Co- Parenting. (Is that a word? If not, it should be!)

So, I have a great relationship with my ex, but we are about to go toe to toe soon. Our daughter is 13, she is 5'6", and about 115 pounds. ALL LEG. She hasn't even hit "puberty" yet, so she is still growing. I have a very strict set of rules, that ex and I came up with together when DD was still a bun in my oven! We said that at 14, ONCE in awhile she could go to a movie or other public event with a boy IF parents were there. She can not car date alone with boys until she is 16.

Ex had a son when we got together. He will be 16 next month. My girls are very close to him and he comes to all their activities. Well...what happens when you have a 15 YO Boy and a 13 YO Girl? They like each other's friends.

I have always been the type to keep my nose out of what my ex does on his time, and he generally calls and asks my opinion if DD asks to go and do something. We always work together.

A couple of months ago I found out that his son was having his friends come over and stay on the weekends the girls were there. My DD was having her friends come over too. When my ex and his fiance went to bed, they were staying up till 4 AM playing Truth or Dare, or Spin the Bottle. Now, let me make that clear, Brother and sister aren't doing anything weird..(in case that reads wrong) they are inviting friends over for each other.

So I told my ex what was happening after he went to bed and he was livid. I was happy that we were on the same page. He said NEVER again. The next weekend my 7 YO calls and says, "Mommy, Sissy is asleep on the couch with JOHN". (Her brothers friend and her new "bf"). I said, "Where is your dad?" she said, "At work", I said "Where is Kim?" (dad's fiance) She said, "In her room". I called the ex and he was mad, I told him I was picking the girls up, he said he was calling his fiance to yell at her. I get there to pick up the girls and the fiance says, "They were sitting up, and I was just watching TV in my room so I could watch what I wanted to watch". I don't care! I am not leaving my 13 YO daughter to snuggle with a 16 YO boy!

So...This is getting really long, sorry. But he tells me that his son isn't going to be allowed to bring friends over when the girls are there and DD can't have friends over, we come up with a plan. He calls me this week (they are there for summer visit) and says that DD and her brother are up at BIKE NIGHT walking around. WTF? Seriously? If you aren't into motorcycles, or drinking beer, you have NO BUSINESS up there walking around. After I threw a fit, he said he was going to go pick them up and bring them home.

TWO DAYS LATER...I get a text that says, "She wants to go to the movies with her brother and her friend" and after questioning them all more, this is what I find out. DD has invited a friend over for the weekend, who just happens to be her brother's new GF, Her brother has a friend over that just happens to be snuggle boy from the couch and they want to go to the movies.

I ended up losing my cool and yelling into the phone, when she gets knocked up, YOU are raising the baby!...Not my brightest moment, but come on!! We are the parents, why is it so hard to do the right thing? Why is he giving in every time I turn around.

I am trying so hard to be diplomatic about it all, but really I just can not figure out how to get through to him. Anyone with teen girls, please feel free to leave a comment and tell me your thoughts. I don't want to be a nag on his time, but I have to butt in when it comes to my daughter's moral ground.

So, if you read it all, THANK YOU...and if you have advice, or a comment...Please let me know.